the DELIVERY
So I recently got surgery two weeks ago and on the day of the surgery, they had me waiting in a cold room in just a gown because they had to do a pregnancy test. I had just gotten off my period literally two days ago and unless I was miraculously the next Virgin Mary, I’m 100% not pregnant. The nurse barely looks up from her charts to acknowledges this before insisting that I had to take another test. If I didn’t take another one, they would immediately cancel my surgery. It was hospital policy.
I’ve had this condition all my life but its gotten completely unbearable the past few years and I’ve been actively going to the doctors the last two years trying different methods to allievate my pain and this surgery was my last chance at any type of pain free life. It took 6 months to schedule and if I had to wait another second, I was going kill somebody. Safe to say I was a little pissed. I sat in that freezing room, irritated with an IV needle sticking in my hand, waiting on the nurse to find records of my pee test that I did less than a two week ago at their request. She couldn’t find the test results. She handed me an empty container with a cheery smile and an obnoxious prep talk that I did not ask for and told me to fill it.
One of the preparatory requirements they gave me was that the night before the surgery I couldn’t consume any foods or liquid (water especially). So I couldn’t pee. I asked for some water and she reluctantly gave me a cup with two sip fulls.
My surgery was scheduled for 9 A.M, they told me to come in at 7:30 A.M. It was already 11:41 A.M. when I had to retake the test and I didn’t go in until almost 1 P.M. The fact that I had to go through that extra hoop and have the threat of my surgery being cancelled hung over me like a noose just because of a pregnancy test is beyond aggravating. People love perpetually valuing the potential of a possible fetus over the lives of already living women. We always seem to come second no matter what.
That’s sounds extremely stressful. I’m sorry you had to go through that on top of everything else. We aren’t effing incubators!
This is so common amongst girls and women dealing with medical care
[Medical/Miscarriage TW] Earlier this year I went to the ER on a Monday night with terrible abdominal pain, cramps, throwing up, the whole shebang. They did an ultrasound but couldn’t see anything so they attributed it to a bad stomach bug, gave me IV fluids & anti-nausea meds, and sent me home Tuesday morning.
They didn’t want to do a CT scan, you see, because ‘We don’t want to irradiate your uterus unnecessarily.’ Here’s the thing. There was NO way I was pregnant AT ALL because I was literally still suffering & passing the remnants of a fucking spontaneous miscarriage. Not only that, I told them: the miscarriage was a surprise and an accident. I do not want children, had not been trying to have a baby, and had not known I was pregnant until it stopped (it was a weird year).
I was severely dehydrated and on morphine but I do remember telling them ‘I don’t care about my uterus, I’m not using it.’ But because of their concern for any future potential other fetuses, they didn’t do a CT scan. And 20 hours later I got to experience the worst pain of my life, my first CT scan, and my first surgery when my appendix stopped just being infected and decided to go ahead and burst.
I don’t usually add my own $0.02 to posts but misogyny in medicine needs to stop.
My tubes are tied, after two kids. I’m married to a woman. They still make me take a pregnancy test.
The other day at the mall i saw a 15 year old sitting in a Claire’s piercing booth and it took every fiber in my being to not just grab her and take her to the actual, clean and sanitary and not guaranteed to fuck up your ears tattoo shop literally next door. Like I was frantic. Snakes manifested in my house
Piercing guns almost ALWAYS cause infections
They hurt more because they jam dull jewelry into your ear
Needles from a professional are designed to allow for minimum damage thus less pain.
The people working there literally have no idea what the fuck they’re doing and just guess it with a 1 hour training video vs a professional who trained under a mentor for at least a year and has a passion in the craft
They use bad metal for healings (copper, silver, etc) that can irritate ears. Surgical grade steel should be the only thing in your healing piercings
They put them on way to tight, causing swelling issues. Swelling is normal and piercings should be large enough to allow for that
They give you shit aftercare advice and cleaner (literally just buy saline solution at Spencer’s or hot topic for 8 dollars at the most and don’t touch them at all)
If done on cartilage it can LITERALLY SHATTER YOUR EARS
Please if any young girls in your family want their ears pierced take them to actual professional and don’t trust piercing guns. If a professional says your kid is too young (I.e a fucking baby) then trust their professional judgement. It costs more but you are getting essentially a art piece from a highly trained professional who knows what they’re doing vs a part time min wage employee who had 1 hour training on how to pierce ears.
I literally wrote an entire essay in college why piercing guns should be banned with pictures and my professor told me she was so interested in my topic and had no idea and even googled the topic herself out of curiosity and was horrified on the amount of damage they case
I am a licensed piercing professional and this is all sound and accurate advice. Get your piercings done by a licensed professional at a reputable shop. Not at the mall kiosk that uses piercing guns. Not by your friend who ordered a kit off of Amazon.
Association of Professional Piercers Aftercare Guide:
Y’all, we’re not just talking a bacterial infection that makes your ear hurt for a few days. People can and do get hepatitis and other blood-born viruses from improper sterilization of piercing guns.
Go to an actual piercing studio. They don’t use an alcohol wipe to clean their equipment - they use an autoclave and/or single-use sterile equipment.
Reasons I believe my friend is secretly some kind of deity
1) First time we spoke was a week after the beggining of freshman year she summed up my entire character and most of the events of my life Sherlock style. I asked her how the hell she knew all that. She just shrugged and said she figured out our entire class already.
2) The one time we had religion class instead of ethics she listened to the teacher for a few minutes, laughed and told me:
“Humans have wished to be gods so much they’ve forgotten they have to ability to create them. Imagination has truly suffered from this ‘monotheism’ stuff.”
I was confused and asked her if she was an atheist. She rolled her eyes and said:
“Oh I believe in god alright. I just don’t think the bastard deserves to be worshipped.”
3) Out of nowhere she gave me this advice:
“The only truth a liar ever told was that lies weren’t going to save you. Don’t become the liar who has to pass that wisdom on, because they speak from experience.”
4) To this day, she has one of those old-timey phones with buttons she only uses to ocassionally call someone. When I asked her why she never got a smartphone she got pouty:
“I hate social media. On Facebook they talk a lot but never say anything. If I wanted to listen to people moan about their problems and ask for help they don’t expect I’d listen to their prayers.” (Notice the choice of words)
5) I noticed she was stiff and I offered her a massage since I’m really good at it but when i started kneading her back I swear to this day those were not muscles I felt. I asked her what she did to turn her muscles into rocks covered with a thin layer of skin and she kinda froze then shrugged and said she was just really, really stiff. My hands hurt after ten minutes when I can usually go for an hour. Next time I offered she seemed surprised and laughed. She still has rocks for muscles.
6) We were having a debate over the way neural pathways are formed (I study biology and she forensics) and I jokingly asked if I could have her brain for study when she dies. She laughed.
“Sure, if you find a way to kill me you can have it. I’m actually curious what you’re gonna find.”
7) One time she was tired and miserable and I tried to comfort her. We both have really dark sense of humor so I told her she could scare the dead out of their graves with that glare. She told me the dead can’t come back and I rolled my eyes and said ‘obviously’ but she continued:
“When you die you descend to the underworld with nothing to lose. To keep you, they give you something to lose. When you want to return, they will demand it back. That’s why nobody ever leaves. The only way out is to never enter.”
8) One day she just came up to me with a disappointed look on her face. When I asked her what was wrong she was quiet for a few seconds and then just told me:
“Betrayals committed in good intentions are still damning. Just… keep that in mind.” Then she left and didn’t speak to me for three days. I still don’t know what she meant but even three years later I haven’t forgotten it.
9) We were casually sitting on a bench when, out of nowhere, she asked me: “Is it just me or have humans gotten dumber? Or have they always been this stupid and I just haven’t been paying attention?”
10) She asked me if I ever wondered what it was like to die. I said no but told her I would tell her when I found out. I meant it as a ghost joke but she smiled at me and said:
“Great. I’ll wait for you to come back. Maybe you’ll even remember me.”
In conclusion, she is some kind of low-key god and she lost her faith in humanity even before we lost our faith in her but she’s stuck with us because immortality is a bitch.
P.S. I just remembered her name is a variation on ‘Eve’. Maybe I should reconsider my atheist status?!
I think you met the devil dude
Remember when Thomas Sanders made a positive post about ace ppl and that made some folks mad so they accused him of being a pedophile bc he includes students from the high school his mother works at in some of his funny videos?
Remember when Tumblr went from viewing John Green as annoying (true) and decided to accuse him of being a pedophile bc he writes YA novels and interacts with his fans sometimes?
Remember the like…. Dozen humor bloggers that this site has turned against when some uncomfortable fact from their private lives or problematic actions/beliefs from their past became public knowledge, whether or not the ~callout posts~ were true or just 100% malicious lies?
I don’t even feel any kind of way about Gaud, though they seem like a friendly person who is cool to their followers, I’ve just been on this hellsite long enough to know how you demons love to build people up so you can drag them down and feed on the carcass.
People have this habit of seeing an adult build a teen fanbase and immediately thinking it’s for malicious reasons, instead of realizing that most of the media they loved as teens also came from adults because that’s just how most media is created.
Can a creator have an irresponsible relationship with a teen audience? Yes. Is…… having an audience…… automatically the same thing as being creepy or irresponsible with those teens? No.
I’m still confused about the nsfw art thing because I have no idea how one is supposed to keep track of who your followers are. Last time I checked, I had around 4000 followers. I’ve been on this site 6 years. A lot of those followers are probably abandoned. A lot of them are probably bots I haven’t spotted. I have no way of knowing how many of my followers are even active and paying attention to what I post, let alone how many of them are minors, especially because I was raised that you never, ever tell people online your age.
Like, when I was a kid, that was drilled into me. Don’t Share Your Age. The fear was that if you shared your age, predators would be more likely to find you. Do you have any idea how incredibly startled I was when I joined a discord server and people were putting their ages in their intros? And that’s a semi-private place. I would never post it on my tumblr bio. So I really can’t fault anyone for not knowing how old someone is from their tumblr.
I had to ask my roommate about what the issue was, because…I suppose it could conceivably happen to me now that staff killed the option to flag one’s own blog as unsafe for minors, but yes–are we really asking that people comb through their followers list checking ages. I’m not popular here, and it’s never occured to me to do that, and I’m not going to be told I’m a bad person for not starting to.
Like OP I’m barely familiar with Gaud but if the charges against them are “Might have a lot of minor followers” and “Did something weird for money ON THE INTERNET”, and “Asked for erotic fanart of their distinctly not easily-sexifiable icon” then y'all need to shush.
Some of the ‘sexy’ art people are getting angry about:
#yeah i mean i know nothing about gaud but some of the stuff i’m hearing is pretty obviously stretched to the point of ridiculousness #like yeah some stuff might be icky or uncomfortable but some of y'all accuse people of really damaging shit just bc you don’t like them #like the word pedophile just gets applied to anyone who might not comprehend the maturity gap btwn them and their audience #something being inappropriate doesn’t necessarily mean it’s predatory #and the stuff with gaud seems inappropriate at best #at BEST #tbh these pics are tame compared to what i was imagining
do u ever remember all the horrible offensve things u said when u were like 15 and u literally feel ur soul detach and turn 2 dust
your fave is problematic: yourself
Basically, yeah. That’s kind of the point – you always have to look back on yourself and be mortified and resolve to be better.
Shit, the stuff I said just five YEARS ago (and I’m almost 33) makes me cringe like a motherfucker.
Burn in mortification. Rise from the ashes and be better. Lather, rinse, repeat for the rest of your life.
This is why purity culture doesn’t work!!! We’re all shit! We can all grow and do better!
Just an experiment. Reblog if you actually give a fuck about male victims of domestic violence and rape.
Abuse has no gender
Abuse has no gender.
I will reblog this until I die.
I instantly don’t trust anyone who doesn’t reblog this.
Abuse has no gender
Why does no one recognize the KKK as an actual terrorist group??? As an actual WHITE and CHRISTIAN and AMERICAN terrorist group?? Is it because they’re white? Is it because they’re Christian? Is it because they’re American? Or is it all three? Hm……….Guess we’ll never know………………
Keep reblogging this please I’m getting so much hate from racists it’s hilarious